How do we legislate a child’s pain? How do we regulate a behavior that is arguably an innate instinct? Does legislation curtail bullying? Does forcing schools to implement programs actually protect children, or are they just band aids?
These are all questions that people try to answer when trying to create laws to reduce bullying and protect children.
Massachusetts Senate recently passed a bill trying to protect children by forcing schools to ramp up their bullying curriculum, as they have done in the past. The problem is that the House has not seen fit to pass the bills. Perhaps now with increased pressure as a result of Phoebe Prince and other children committing suicide rather than face bullies they will decide the law is important.
The legislation passed sets out to ensure that schools are able to discipline children for bullying activities on the internet outside of school, and activities that affect a child at school. It requires the parents of victims and perpetrators to be notified and gives schools the power to contact police.
While I believe that school curriculum should be a tool in the box, it is not nearly enough.
It is, ultimately, a band-aid. We are trying to correct behaviors that begin LONG before children ever set foot in a school. They are, in part, a human trait that seeks to ‘weed out the weak”. I think that whether one believes in evolution or not, it is easy to see similarities between the human behavior and animal nature.
What I don’t understand is the ‘permission’ to call police? That shouldn’t even be an issue. Harassment and physical abuse should be illegal. Period. We shouldn’t need extra laws to govern it. The problem is that a lot of bullying occurs at a very young age. The early elementary years are especially a problem. Of course this is the time that we address the problem with “they are just kids”, but there is another more complicated issue. Children that young are rarely prosecuted. Not that they should be, but there are few criminal systems designed for anyone under the age of ten. Most don’t really hold kids responsible until the age of twelve.
How do I know?
I worked for seven years as a juvenile corrections officer. In a prison for boys. Electric fence and razor wire.
I had a person say to me once, “why do you call it prison, this is America and we do not imprison children here?”
I beg to differ, but that is beside the point.
Children at that age are not being helped by the criminal justice system. The system from my perspective does nothing more than breed future criminals. The recidivism rate is unbelievably high.
So what do we do then? How do we solve a problem that is present in nearly every culture in the world?
Leave it alone some would say. It is a fact of life. Well so is disease and death and we try to correct and combat that daily.
I say the problem lies within each of us. We need to change how we see and react with each other, in order to change how our children react with each other. We need to start by raising awareness that the problem begins with how we are socializing our children at the earliest ages. We need to raise awareness that bullying begins ,basically, at birth.
Not popular, I know. No one wants to look at themselves and say they are part of the problem. No one wants to look at the sweet innocence of a baby and say they are capable of forming habits that will eventually lead to bullying. I don’t think we can put an age on it. I think that some children are socialized in child care settings among other children and it can begin then. It can begin at home among siblings. Fights over toys and struggles over power are part of bullying. Until we learn to deal with those issues we wont curb bullying. Not when they in school, not in the workplace, and not in the global political arena.
How do we legislate something so basic?
We don’t. We learn to change ourselves.
http://www.boston.com/news/education/k_12/articles/2010/03/12/senate_oks_bill_to_curtail_bullying/
50 Blog Posts Every Teacher Should Read
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I am proud to say that this blog has a place on a special list. 50 Blog Posts Every Teacher Should Read is a list produced by Michael Erins on his site Masters in Education.
The post, What can forgiveness do for you?, written July 31 2010, about Phoebe’s father’s wish to forgive the children involved in her suicide, was in response to the Phoebe Prince case, and in part, a post written earlier that day.
Thank you Mr. Erins for your dedication to teachers and for researching the 50 most important sites. I applaud your efforts.
As many of you know bullying is a crisis I care deeply about, despite my inability at this time to post as often as I would like. I applaud efforts by educators to find new ways to deal with this age-old problem.
I mentioned awhile back I had spoken with my daughter’s principal about the lack of supervision on the playgrounds at her school. Two school days after that conversation the principal di send out an email to parents requesting volunteer supervision on the playground. It was a welcome email and when I returned to the school the following Friday there was a noticeable increase in parents choosing to attend lunch with their children. Recess seemed a little less chaotic and it is my opinion that adult presence simply reminds children of the rules even if the rules are unspoken. Kudos, to her principal!
Perhaps you can spend some time at recess with your children and help create a more visible adult presence. Children really enjoy it, and I am sure you will too.
Most bullying in schools occurs during unsupervised times like recess, class transitions, and bathroom breaks. Children cannot be watched every second of every day but if more adults are present during recess perhaps the likelihood of bullying behavior will drop.
Isn’t it worth a try?
I hope you are having a wonderful week and I hope to have opportunity to write again soon. In the mean time please explore some of the helpful links I have provided on this site.
~Beth
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