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Anti-Bullying Projects
- Anti-Bullying Network (Scottish Organization)
- Bullying UK
- Center for Non-Violent Communication
- Cruel's Not Cool
- Eyes On Bullying Toolkit PDF
- EyesOnBullying-Organization
- Generous Kids, Inc.
- Help Sponsor The Southern Poverty Law Center's new anti-bullying film in Schools!
- International Stand Up to Bullying Day
- Make Time to Listen-Make Time to Talk -15 minute talking handout cards-PDF
- Operation Respect: Don't Laugh at Me, Dedicated to creating safe, caring and respect environments
- Organizing a No Name-calling Week in your school
- Pink Shirt Day
- Project Achieve
- Speak Up To Your Teacher
- Steps to Respect (Global Bullying Prevention)
- Stop Bullying Now- Government resource website
- Take Action Against Bullying
- The Peace Center
- What's Bullying-New Zealand
Books
Children/Students
- Battling Bullies: Putting an End to Schoolyard Conflicts
- Behavior Problems-Answers to Questions
- Bullying Advice From "Tween" and Teen Experts
- Center for Non-Violent Communication
- Cindy Springsteen- Expert Teen Advice
- Cruel's Not Cool
- Don't Call Me Michael
- Middle School Confidential
- Organizing a No Name-calling Week in your school
- SafeYouth National Youth Violence Prevention
- Stop Bullying Now- Government resource website
- Talking Teenage- If you have a teenager you NEED this!
Education/Schools/Teachers
- Addressing Barriers to Learning
- Adults & Children Together Against Violence
- Battling Bullies: Putting an End to Schoolyard Conflicts
- Behavior Problems at School: Quick Training Aid
- Behavior Problems-Answers to Questions
- Behavioral Initiatives: Technical Assistance
- Bullies in School: Who they are and how to make them stop
- Bullying Advice From "Tween" and Teen Experts
- Bullying and teasing Youth with Disabilities
- Bullying Behavior Problems: What's a School to Do?
- Bullying in Kindergarten
- Bullying Is Not a Fact of Life
- Bullying Prevention IS Crime Prevention (PDF)
- Bullying Prevention Training Aids
- Bullying: A Major Barrier to Student Learning
- BullyProof Your School
- Bullyproof: A Teacher's Guide on Teasing and Bullying for Use with Fourth and Fifth Grade Students (1996)
- Center for Non-Violent Communication
- Children Who Bully-Information Sheet
- Common Errors In Bullying Prevention-Stop Bullying Now
- Conduct and Behavior Problems:Intervention and Resources for School Aged Youth
- Cruel's Not Cool
- Direct from the Field: A guide to bullying prevention, Commonwealth of MA (2003)
- Don't Call Me Michael
- Exploring the Nature and Prevention of Bullying (Ed.gov)
- Help Sponsor The Southern Poverty Law Center's new anti-bullying film in Schools!
- Involvement of Law Enforcement Officers in Bullying Prevention
- Kentucky Center for School Safety
- List of Research Based Articles and Books on Bullying and Peer Victimization
- Middle School Confidential
- MODEL Policy And Guidance For Prohibiting Harassment, Intimidation And Bullying on School Property at School-Sponsored Functions and School Buses-(New Jersey)
- Operation Respect: Don't Laugh at Me, Dedicated to creating safe, caring and respect environments
- Organizing a No Name-calling Week in your school
- Project Achieve
- Roots of Empathy
- Safe Place to Learn
- Safe Schools Coalition
- SafeYouth National Youth Violence Prevention
- Seeds of Empathy
- Social and Emotional Learning and Bullying Prevention
- Some Facts About Bullying Among Young People and Children
- Speak Up To Your Teacher
- State Laws Information Sheet-From Stop Bullying Now
- Steps to Respect (Global Bullying Prevention)
- Stop Bullying Now- Government resource website
- Talking Teenage- If you have a teenager you NEED this!
- Teasing and Bullying-Gender Equity
- The 2003 national school climate survey: The school-related experiences of our nation's gay, bisexual and transgender youth
- The ABC's of Bullying: Addressing, Blocking and Curbing School Aggression-Pathways Online Course
- The prevalence of teachers who bully students in schools with differing levels of behavioral problems
- Tips for Selecting Bullying Resources
- What We Know About Bullying
Films
International Resources
- Anti-Bullying Network (Scottish Organization)
- Bully Suicide Project
- Bullying UK
- Chronic PTSD Information
- International Bullying Prevention Association
- Psychological Harassment Information Association
- Roots of Empathy
- School Bullying and the Law
- Seeds of Empathy
- Speak Up To Your Teacher
- Steps to Respect (Global Bullying Prevention)
- What's Bullying-New Zealand
Law Enforcement Officers
- Adressing the Problem of Juvenile Bullying-Office of Juvenile Justice
- Bullying Advice From "Tween" and Teen Experts
- Bullying Prevention IS Crime Prevention (PDF)
- Bullying-Problem Oriented Guide for Police Problem Specific Guide Series
- Center for Non-Violent Communication
- Children Who Bully-Information Sheet
- Involvement of Law Enforcement Officers in Bullying Prevention
- Juvenile Delinquency and Serious Injury Victimization-Office of Juvenile Justice
- List of Research Based Articles and Books on Bullying and Peer Victimization
- SafeYouth National Youth Violence Prevention
- State Laws Information Sheet-From Stop Bullying Now
- Tips for Selecting Bullying Resources
Medical Resources
Parents/Caregivers/Guardians
- Adressing the Problem of Juvenile Bullying-Office of Juvenile Justice
- Adults & Children Together Against Violence
- American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
- Battling Bullies: Putting an End to Schoolyard Conflicts
- Behavior Problems-Answers to Questions
- Bullying Advice From "Tween" and Teen Experts
- Bullying and teasing Youth with Disabilities
- Bullying in Kindergarten
- Bullying Is Not a Fact of Life
- Bullying Prevention IS Crime Prevention (PDF)
- Center for Non-Violent Communication
- Children Who Bully-Information Sheet
- Cindy Springsteen- Expert Teen Advice
- Common Errors In Bullying Prevention-Stop Bullying Now
- Cruel's Not Cool
- Don't Call Me Michael
- Help Sponsor The Southern Poverty Law Center's new anti-bullying film in Schools!
- Helping Your Children Navigate Their Teenage Years
- Involvement of Law Enforcement Officers in Bullying Prevention
- List of Research Based Articles and Books on Bullying and Peer Victimization
- Make Time to Listen-Make Time to Talk -15 minute talking handout cards-PDF
- Middle School Confidential
- MODEL Policy And Guidance For Prohibiting Harassment, Intimidation And Bullying on School Property at School-Sponsored Functions and School Buses-(New Jersey)
- Operation Respect: Don't Laugh at Me, Dedicated to creating safe, caring and respect environments
- Organizing a No Name-calling Week in your school
- Project Achieve
- Safe Place to Learn
- Safe Schools Coalition
- SafeYouth National Youth Violence Prevention
- Social and Emotional Learning and Bullying Prevention
- Some Facts About Bullying Among Young People and Children
- State Laws Information Sheet-From Stop Bullying Now
- Steps to Respect (Global Bullying Prevention)
- Stop Bullying Now- Government resource website
- Take Action Against Bullying
- Talking Teenage- If you have a teenager you NEED this!
- Teasing and Bullying-Gender Equity
- The 2003 national school climate survey: The school-related experiences of our nation's gay, bisexual and transgender youth
- The ABC's of Bullying: Addressing, Blocking and Curbing School Aggression-Pathways Online Course
- The School Bully Can Take a Toll on Your Child's Mental Health
- Tips for Selecting Bullying Resources
- What We Know About Bullying
Resources
- Addressing Barriers to Learning
- Adressing the Problem of Juvenile Bullying-Office of Juvenile Justice
- Adults & Children Together Against Violence
- American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
- Anti-Bullying Network (Scottish Organization)
- Battling Bullies: Putting an End to Schoolyard Conflicts
- Behavior Problems at School: Quick Training Aid
- Behavior Problems-Answers to Questions
- Behavioral Initiatives: Technical Assistance
- Bullies 2 Buddies
- Bullies in School: Who they are and how to make them stop
- Bully Beware Productions- Resources
- Bully Suicide Project
- Bullycide.org
- Bullying Advice From "Tween" and Teen Experts
- Bullying and teasing Youth with Disabilities
- Bullying Behavior Problems: What's a School to Do?
- Bullying in Kindergarten
- Bullying in Schools and what to do about it
- Bullying Is Not a Fact of Life
- Bullying Prevention IS Crime Prevention (PDF)
- Bullying Prevention Training Aids
- Bullying Stories
- Bullying UK
- Bullying, Psychosocial Adjustment, and Academic Performance in Elementary School
- Bullying-Problem Oriented Guide for Police Problem Specific Guide Series
- Bullying.org
- Bullying: A Major Barrier to Student Learning
- BullyProof Your School
- Bullyproof: A Teacher's Guide on Teasing and Bullying for Use with Fourth and Fifth Grade Students (1996)
- Carmichael Middle School's page-What causes bullying?
- Center for Non-Violent Communication
- Center for Responsible Internet Use- Information for cyber bullies
- Children Who Bully-Information Sheet
- Chronic PTSD Information
- Cindy Springsteen- Expert Teen Advice
- Common Errors In Bullying Prevention-Stop Bullying Now
- Conduct and Behavior Problems:Intervention and Resources for School Aged Youth
- Cruel's Not Cool
- Dealing with Bullying
- Direct from the Field: A guide to bullying prevention, Commonwealth of MA (2003)
- Educational Forum on Youth Bullying-American Medical Association (2002)
- EducationWorld.org
- Exploring the Nature and Prevention of Bullying (Ed.gov)
- Eyes On Bullying Toolkit PDF
- EyesOnBullying-Organization
- Fact Sheet from Consortium to Prevent School Violence (CPSV)
- Fight Crime.org
- Generous Kids, Inc.
- Healing Circles-Resolving Conflict Creatively
- Helping Kids Deal with Bullies- Kids Health.org
- Helping Your Child Deal with a Bully
- Helping Your Children Navigate Their Teenage Years
- https://acceptanceinschools.wordpress.com
- Juvenile Delinquency and Serious Injury Victimization-Office of Juvenile Justice
- Kentucky Center for School Safety
- Key to Safer Schools- Resources
- Learn 2 B Buddies
- List of Research Based Articles and Books on Bullying and Peer Victimization
- Make Time to Listen-Make Time to Talk -15 minute talking handout cards-PDF
- Mean Girls Start in Preschool
- Middle School Confidential
- MODEL Policy And Guidance For Prohibiting Harassment, Intimidation And Bullying on School Property at School-Sponsored Functions and School Buses-(New Jersey)
- National Center for School Violence
- National Mental Health Information Center-United States
- Olweus Bullying Prevention Program
- Olweus.org
- Online seminars through Olweus Foundation
- Operation Respect: Don't Laugh at Me, Dedicated to creating safe, caring and respect environments
- Organizing a No Name-calling Week in your school
- Partners Against Hate
- PBS Kids-It's My Life
- Peer exclusion and victimization: processes that mediate the relation …(2006)
- Project Achieve
- Relational Aggression and Bullying: It's More than Just a Girl Thing
- Relationships between peer harrassment and adolescent problem behaviors (2005) J. Rusby, et al, Journal of Early Adolescence, 25(4) 453-477
- Roots of Empathy
- Ryan's Story
- Safe Place to Learn
- Safe Schools Coalition
- SafeChild.org
- SafeYouth National Youth Violence Prevention
- Sarah O'Hara: Gift of Fairy Wings
- Seeds of Empathy
- Social and Emotional Learning and Bullying Prevention
- Some Facts About Bullying Among Young People and Children
- Speak Up To Your Teacher
- State Laws Information Sheet-From Stop Bullying Now
- Steps to Respect (Global Bullying Prevention)
- Stop Bullying Now- Government resource website
- Students Against Violence
- Take Action Against Bullying
- Talking Teenage- If you have a teenager you NEED this!
- Teasing and Bullying-Gender Equity
- Teasing and Bullying: No Laughing Matter
- The 2003 national school climate survey: The school-related experiences of our nation's gay, bisexual and transgender youth
- The ABC's of Bullying: Addressing, Blocking and Curbing School Aggression-Pathways Online Course
- The Peace Center
- The prevalence of teachers who bully students in schools with differing levels of behavioral problems
- The School Bully Can Take a Toll on Your Child's Mental Health
- Tips for parents facing Bullying in Kindergarten-Part 1
- Tips for Parents facing Bullying in Kindergarten-Part 2
- Tips for Selecting Bullying Resources
- What Kids Need to Succeed
- What We Know About Bullying
- What's Bullying-New Zealand
- What's Bullying- Resource- New Zealand
- Words Can Hurt, Too — Another Kind of Bullying
- Workplace Bullying Institute
- Youth Violence and Electronic Media: Similar Behaviors, Different Venues?
Scholarly Research
- Addressing Barriers to Learning
- American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
- Behavior Problems at School: Quick Training Aid
- Behavioral Initiatives: Technical Assistance
- Bullying Behavior Problems: What's a School to Do?
- Bullying Prevention Training Aids
- Bullying, Psychosocial Adjustment, and Academic Performance in Elementary School
- Bullying: A Major Barrier to Student Learning
- Conduct and Behavior Problems:Intervention and Resources for School Aged Youth
- Invisible Bruises: kindergartners' perceptions of bullying
- List of Research Based Articles and Books on Bullying and Peer Victimization
- Mean Girls Start in Preschool
- Olweus Bullying Prevention Program
- Olweus.org
- Online seminars through Olweus Foundation
- Peer exclusion and victimization: processes that mediate the relation …(2006)
- Project Achieve
- Relational Aggression and Bullying: It's More than Just a Girl Thing
- Relationships between peer harrassment and adolescent problem behaviors (2005) J. Rusby, et al, Journal of Early Adolescence, 25(4) 453-477
- Social behavior and peer relationships of victims, bully-victims, and bullies in kindergarten
- The prevalence of teachers who bully students in schools with differing levels of behavioral problems
- Words Can Hurt, Too — Another Kind of Bullying
- Youth Violence and Electronic Media: Similar Behaviors, Different Venues?
Video Clips-Segments
Isolation
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Many of you already know that I am a former juvenile corrections officer. “Youth counselor” was my official term because the state where I worked wanted to soften the blow and image of children being in prison. Sadly, it was a prison. There was a razor wire fence and half way through my tenure there, an electric fence was added. I can’t imagine calling it anything less than a prison.
I bring that up now because, like many of you, I am disturbed by the mass shooting in Tucson, AZ this weekend. My work in the prison allowed me to see differences in human behaviors and become interested in possible “causes”. That incident, like many violent outbursts seen across the United States, and rarely, elsewhere have seem to have one thing in common. Each of the alleged assailants seem to live in isolation. Whether self-imposed, imagined, or socially isolated they all appear to be on the fringe. As they live on the fringe they seek acceptance wherever they can get it. Nowadays, that is likely the internet where similarly isolated people can join and share their ideas. Ideas, that often are more and more radical, more and more isolatory in nature, more and more oppositional to what they see as they problems with the culture they may have been rejected from.
Why do I write about this here? On a blog for bullying, particularly as it exists in early childhood?
I write about here because I notice similarities in the victims of bullying and the eventual perpetrators to these crimes. I am not making excuses for them, mind you. I just notice that both suffer from the same sort of isolation, and need to find acceptance. The difference is that young children are not always able to seek out acceptance in the radical fringes of the internet.
I bring it up because I feel it is even more important to be aware when our children are facing isolation, or perhaps encouraging it among their peers. If conditions are right, isolation from the group can cause adverse reactions and can potentially exacerbate already stressful mental health conditions.
Perhaps, we can reach out to people who may not fit within our little groups and as we do so we set an example for our children that everyone is deserving of acceptance.
Perhaps, as we seek out people who may not fit our little molds or cliques we may find that someone needs us more than we know.
Perhaps, we will be rewarded in ways we can not imagine as that person brings a new perspective to our lives.
Perhaps, we can seek out help for those that need it around us. Perhaps, we can eliminate a tragedy now, or twenty years down the road, as we offer a safety net or encourage acceptance and healthy self-esteem among those in our community.
Perhaps, I am way off base but I see a lot of parallels between bullying and the isolation it causes and the isolation that seems to be present in most, if not all, of the shooters lives. Perhaps.
My heart goes out to ALL involved in the shooting incident in Tucson, AZ. It is my sincere hope that all with be met with healing and peace. I hope that those victims still in the hospital, and Gabrielle Giffords, continue to heal physically and will heal emotionally from this tragic, life changing event.
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Tagged Adolescence, Arizona, bullying, Gabrielle Giffords, Mental health, Sarah Palin, Tucson Arizona, Uncontacted people, United States, Violence and Abuse